Getting Laid with Hot Girls Wherever You Are: 7 Tips
Getting Laid with Hot Girls Wherever You Are: 7
Tips
Men are nuanced beings in many ways, but there are also some
very certain ways in which men are actually quite simple. And there are a few
things about all men that I know to be true:
1.
Men like hot girls (whatever “hot” means to them and assuming
that they’re straight)
2.
Men like getting laid (no further qualification needed here)
3.
Men (straight men, anyway) like getting laid with hot girls
And yet, the unfortunate truth is that so few men are able to
make it to step three. Some guys get laid with massive infrequency and with
mediocre looking girls. Some guys are unable to bring hot girls into their
lives, and if they do, are only able to do so playing the role of orbiter or
solid friend
zone friend. Some guys are able to sleep with a hot girl by
fluke or once in a blue moon.
And then there are the few. The few men who are able
to get laid with a high amount of consistency – regardless of location – with
the most beautiful of women. They don’t do so all the time, but definitely
often enough to keep the good times rolling. And even when they come short,
they have enough core confidence to not even care anyway.
So today I want to talk to you about how to become one of the
few.
Be
On Your Game Everywhere
I recently went to a daytime art collective with a good friend
of mine. There were a lot of snooty art people there, and businessmen, and
indie artists, and more or less every manner of art appreciator you can
imagine. It was a fairly formal environment in which people seemed focused on
creating business from the event.
But not I, said the walrus. I saw a really beautiful girl who
was a painter and clothing designer. Now, these days I don’t really think twice
about approaching girls wherever, but there was something about this
environment that made me stop and think: “Am I allowed to try to game
this girl here?” Naturally, I decided to do it anyway. She
and I began talking about her artwork and she told me that she was going to
have a bigger showcase later that night.
I was reading the subtext pretty well, so I told her: “Great,
I’ll be back in a few hours to keep flirting with you.” And the night ended up
turning into all the free champagne I could drink… and other, nicer, naughtier
things behind the scenes, away from public eyes. My initial hesitations,
needless to say, were assuaged.
But the question is: how do you get to the point where
you can set up getting laid wherever you are?
Let’s go through the key tips.
Tip #1: Look Beyond the Bar
I think that one of the most important tips that I can share in
terms of setting yourself up for getting laid anywhere is to make an important
mental shift. I know that a lot of guys hear about day game,
or think about day game, but they
don’t actually do any day game.
And for the purposes of this article, let me also expand the
definition of “day game”. Day game isn’t only gaming when the sun is in the
middle of the sky; day gaming also includes gaming in places that
aren’t traditionally considered “seduction” environments.
For example, if you game a girl in a Wal-Mart at 10pm, even
though it’s not technically the daytime (barring being in Alaska), I still
consider it day game because it’s not an environment guys typically associate
with hitting on girls.
And there are far more opportunities to seduce girls outside of
a bar (and far easier I might add) than there are in a bar
setting. But the problem is: a lot guys don’t give themselves
permission to try to seduce girls outside of a bar, club, or party.
When they think about day game, they have thoughts about:
- Approach
anxiety
- Cold
girls and icier rejections
- Being
judged socially
- Not
being in the “zone”
- Being
too sober to succeed
- Girls
being too busy or too important to waste their time on a man
- Failing
in front of their friends
- Feeling
generally stupid because it just “isn’t done”
Do any of these thoughts sound familiar to you? They
should, because I think about every man in most of the West has had one or more
of these thoughts at one point in time. And I would bet that most men still
have these thoughts on a daily basis. They see a hot girl, tell themselves that
they should talk her, and then just let her walk away, like they do with every
hot girl they see on a daily basis.
But the only way you’ll get to the point of getting laid with
hot girls wherever you are is to give yourself permission to game girls
wherever you are. You have to tell yourself that it’s okay to speak
seductively to a girl in a restaurant, or store, or on the street, or on a bus.
And I’ll say right now: yes, it does feel strange at
first. If you’re hitting on a girl in broad daylight it can feel like
you’re very “exposed”. It can feel like there are people lurking around the
corner waiting to point their fingers at you when you fail or when you make
yourself look awkward. It can feel like you’re being a nuisance to a girl who
probably has something better to do. Ask me how I know that.
But I promise with enough day approaches that
feeling really does start to wear off as you transform yourself into a man of
action. Ask me how I know that one.
So focus your mental energy on how things will go right instead
of how they could fall apart. Think about:
· Acting in
spite of your approach anxiety.
· Girls are
people too who are warm and just want to connect.
· No one cares
what you’re doing. Don’t be so conceited. And if they look at you, you’ll never
see them again anyway.
· If you want
to boost your game, you have to understand the idea of warming up. Even LeBron
takes practice shots. Even Messi runs pregame sprints. You won’t be on your
game with your first approach. Just know that and do it anyway, using it as a
springboard for later success.
· If you want
to be a master seducer, you have to learn how to operate sober. You can’t rely
on alcohol as a crutch for your game or core confidence. If you need to build
core confidence, start from the ground up instead of throwing on the alcohol
Band-Aid.
· Find friends
who know what you’re about. Or tell your friends that you’re going to game
girls no matter what. That’s what I told my friends in the beginning. It was a
bit awkward at first, but now they’ve all come around. And we all go out and
day game, and analyze and boost each other up. Sometimes it just takes someone
bold to lead the charge.
· It is done.
Period. You just have to make it your reality.
Tip #2: Stay in a Social Mood
One of the biggest mistakes that beginners and intermediates
make is trying to approach
girls without getting their social momentum churning even a
little bit. What I mean by that is they will walk out of their house, or their
office, after just having watched Netflix or stared at a spreadsheet for four
hours, and then think about opening a girl.
But the thing is, even the most advanced of guys need to go
through the process of getting themselves in the zone. So in order to get off
at least a halfway decent approach, especially if you have approach anxiety,
you should talk to as many people as you can.
And I don’t mean just feign interest, either. I mean stopping to
chat up the old lady at the convenience store and actually caring about how her
day is going. Or seeing that well-dressed professional walking down the street
and giving him a genuine compliment followed by sincerely wanting to know where
he got his blazer.
Additional note: it’s of the utmost importance to limit
your time between interactions. That doesn’t mean sprinting from one
conversation to another like a madman, but it does mean not letting the
momentum fizzle out. Because once you let your momentum fizzle out, you
have to start the process of rebuilding it, right from the beginning
again. So save yourself the trouble and try to keep your energy up
and your number of interactions increasing.
And you’ll notice that, as time goes on, starting interactions
and keeping the flow of socializing will become easier and easier until the
point where you’re not even making yourself do it anymore. You’ll get to the
point where you want to do it.
And finally, find a way to keep your energy going while you’re
not talking to people. If that means listening to music and bobbing your head,
or singing to yourself, or practicing a presentation – just make sure that you
find a way to keep your muscles active and your mind primed for socializing,
otherwise the constant shifting will really throw you off. This is one
of the most important process tweaks that guys who get laid anywhere and who
master day game make.
Tip #3: Open as Many Girls as
Possible
Some more advanced guys say that target selection is as
important as a solid approach process. While I do agree with this perspective,
I think that it’s more valuable and appropriate for high-intermediate and
advanced guys. Most beginners and low intermediates don’t know how to identify
proper approach
invitations. Moreover, they need to learn how to calibrate
their approach to various women; and this ability only comes from having tons
and tons of varying experiences and failing a lot.
So even though this post is about getting laid with hot
girls, only targeting hot girls would be a tactical error. The
best frame to come from is to treat all girls like they are hot. This
will get you in the right mindset of being flirtatious with all females, and
avoiding putting any one individual girl on a pedestal.
Additionally, opening as many girls as you can will help you
understand outcome
independence. Another important mental shift that guys who
are good at getting laid with hot girls make is that they know that anywhere
from 60%-85% of their efforts will yield nothing in terms of tangible results.
However, they will be invaluable in terms intangible results.
They will teach lessons in:
- calibration
- reflection
- deep
diving
- pregnant
pauses
- physicality
- warmth
- humor
- improvisational
thinking
- masculine
energy
- un-reactivity
… and a million other aspects of game that can’t be taught by
just reading materials.
So even though as a beginner you may not be getting laid that
often, you’re constantly building up your acumen with every approach. And when
you build up your acumen with every approach… and you vary your approach style,
repertoire, and location… you’ll inevitably get to the point where you can
seduce hot girls wherever you are.
Tip #4: Plant Many Seeds
When you’re out and about, you will meet many different girls in
a million different life circumstances. And it’s very likely that you’ll meet
girls who are genuinely interested, but just don’t have the time to come and
hang out with you right that second. Or maybe you’ll meet a girl who is in the
midst of a life emergency or breaking up with her boyfriend.
It’s not your job to make every situation work if the
circumstances are out of your hand. But you’ll never know when your number will
come up, so don’t be afraid to plant seeds. If a girl is really busy, give her
your number and tell her to text you when she is free/less stressed/single –
whatever the situation may be.
Simply planting a seed and making yourself out to be a chill,
fun, viable option can sometimes manifest itself into a great date or sexual
encounter. Most seeds won’t yield anything. But every once in a while, a small
seed can lead into a great big encounter.
Tip #5: Be the Party
The mistake that a lot of guys make is that they try to use
women to boost their state or make their day/night more interesting. I go out
with a lot of guys who see their outing as a letdown or a failure if it doesn’t
include a positive interaction with a girl. Rather than focusing on improving
their process or taking action, they focus on what kind of reaction they get
from their girl and base the entire validation of their efficacy as men on it.
However, it should be the exact opposite. With
women, you should be the one boosting their state.
In the same way that a man should lead an interaction on a pragmatic level, he
should be leading it on an emotional level as well. Her mirror neurons will be
filling her with whatever emotions you’re feeling, so you need to be exuding a
positive vibe if you want to get one from her.
Whenever I go out and interact with women, they very often tell
me that I’m really fun, along with being well-dressed and
sexy. This is some of the most positive feedback I can get from a girl, because
I know that they are attracted to me without feeling the pressure of me actually
needing anything from them.
This is an extremely hard balance to strike, but it’s one of the
most certain indicators of great progress. Whenever you can give a girl a great
time and show your sexual interest for her without actually needing her,
it will always make her massively attracted.
Tip #6: Talk to Her Like a Woman (No
Really, be a Sexy Man)
We keep saying on this site that women value and are looking for
sexy men. There is a reason we keep reiterating this point over and over again.
Too many guys try to beat around the bush when talking with girls, scared to
“offend” her or turn her off by saying anything even mildly sexual – or even
implying it.
But girls aren’t pristine little angels. In fact, they are
quite naughty. They like
sex more than guys. And they are looking for guys who will bring out that side
of them. And the only way you can do that is by being a sexy man. Learn to
read subtext.
One of my exes really summed it up quite poignantly during a conversation
we recently had: “Every girl is dirty. It’s just a matter of whether or not she
tells you about it.”
Tip #7: Close Clear, Close Hard
If you want to be one of the few getting laid with beautiful
girls, the girl should never walk away from an interaction unsure of
what you want from her.
- If
you want her number, then make a date with her first, and
then get her number.
- If
you want to see her later that day/night, then make that clear.
- If
you want to pull her then and there, then make a plan, and act.
If you do plan on pulling her – unless it’s completely on – plan
on it being messy. This is something that beginners aren’t told often enough
and intermediates have to unfortunately discover on their own. It’s very rare
that a girl will just start walking back to your apartment without a word of
protest – especially if it’s at night.
If you want to get laid with a hot girl, you absolutely have to
be a problem solver. You have to address her objections and take it one
step at a time. Don’t think about what you’ll do once you get back to
your apartment. Think about getting her to the coffee shop nearby first. Or
even just to the end of the block.
You: Sarah, I’ve been having a great time talking to you. It’s
not often I meet cute girls at JC Penney. How about we go for a quick coffee at
that great spot down the street?
Her: Umm… I don’t know. It’s kind of been a crazy day. I might
just go home.
You: Here, let’s just walk out of the door and see how you
feel.
You walk out of the door…
You: Look.
The coffee shop is literally right there. It’ll take thirty seconds to get
there. Just keep talking with me for five minutes. If you want to throw the
coffee in my face and run away after five minutes, I won’t be mad, okay?
Her: Haha, okay! Let’s do it?
You get outside of the coffee shop…
You: You
know what? I completely forgot that my friend was going to drop something off
for my job. I really need to see if he did that. My apartment is just right
there. Let’s drop by real quick and I promise it’ll take two seconds.
Her: Okay…
And keep in mind: she’s not going to enthusiastically
agree to everything you suggest. But as long as she keeps following you, that’s
all that matters.
And once you get to your place…
You: Actually, I have way better coffee here that’s free. Just
grab a seat, and let this master barista whip you up something delicious.
Her: Haha
okay, okay. But I do have to go soon.
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